Pointers in talking to young children about war.
by Jodie Lynn, www.ParentToParent.com

#1. Answer questions honestly but do not go overboard.

#2. From preschool to early elementary, they will hear other things from different children. Don't laugh at their questions. They need reassurance to know they are safe.

#3. Try to not watch too much TV in front of the children. Pictures can be quite graphic.

#4. Listen to the radio when the children are not in the car or in the room.

#5. Personalizing your discussion goes over much better than distant examples. If they should see or hear something, tell them there are some other people who have unacceptable behavior (instead of using the word "bad") but that they are far away from them, you or grandma.

#6. Keep your words and behavior in check. Children take our tone and emotions into consideration when upsetting things happen.

#7. Should your children have a play date over at a friend?s house, tell the other parents your preferences and expectations.

#8. Don't make them talk about war or scary situations if they do not want to. Some children may want to draw pictures to show their feelings. Keep language simple.

#9. If all of a sudden they cannot sleep or their appetite dwindles significantly, or explode for no reason, they may need to go to the doctor.

#10. Talk with relatives, childcare providers, and teachers about your concerns and guidelines so everyone will be on the same page.

Light a candle, say a prayer and God Bless our troops.